Failed novelist? No.
This anonymous writer considers herself  a failed novelist because...her first two books failed to get published. Her first effort at getting published lasted only "several months." And now she's so devastated that she not only has given up writing, she also no longer reads contemporary fiction. Boo freaking hoo. I'd say more, but the writer David Barnett has responded much more eloquently (and diplomatically) than I ever could.
 I assume it's a woman, based on the "infertile woman at a baby shower" analogy. Very few men would ever make that reference.